They got people working 24 hours a day whose job it is to ruin your children. Dr. Tony Evans says the world is eager to disciple your children, but God entrusted that calling to parents. The primary role of the home is the evangelization and discipleship of the children. This is the alternative broadcast, featuring the timeless biblical teachings from the archives of Dr.
Tony Evans. Dr. Evans says the only way to counter societal influences that lead our kids away from the Lord is to cultivate a family-based faith. Let's join him as he explains how to do that. Like it or not, you and I are currently experiencing a cultural tsunami.
That is quite literally sweeping away a generation. There is virtually No sense anymore of absolute truth. The question is not: is it right or is it wrong? It's how does it make me feel? That has become the The dominant Mindset.
of our contemporary generation. I was in a hotel the other day and I was flipping a channel. And there was a comedian on. The comedian spent some time. Telling the worst possible jokes.
At the end of him telling his jokes, he said this. He said, now, Now, you all folks make sure. That you keep God first in your life. In other words, There was no connection. Between What he was saying.
and what he was believing. There was a disconnect. You see it on the award shelves. Folk, thank God after doing the worst kind of stuff. Because there's no connection.
God is there in a vague, general way. But his impact and influence. or the decisions that are made is not. Unfortunately, we have a generation of Christian young people today who are wearing the enemy's uniform. And what I mean is, they have adopted the value system of this world order.
And it has become their value system, even though they may go to church. Yeah, yeah, yeah. In Deuteronomy is writing the children of Israel or talking to the children of Israel. And they are getting ready to go into the promised land. What Moses tells the children of Israel.
Is that if you want to survive? in the promised land. The family must become the primary place. where faith is transferred. Not the government.
Not this public school. Not to church. He tells them as the leader of the people, he says, if you're going to make it in the promised land, It's got to be made in your house. Today we live in a day of outsourcing. Companies outsource their products, outsource goods and services so that inside they don't have to deal with it.
So they pay another company that's a professional in this arena, y'all handle this for us.
So we don't have to worry about it. And if I outsource it, then... You pay the salaries of the people. You pay the benefits. We're going to outsource it because we don't want to be bothered with that.
Today we have a generation that's outsourced their kids. Score. You raise my kids for eight hours. Church, you teach my kids. Television, you entertain my kids.
Because I don't want to be bothered. I am Too tired. Too frustrated. Got my own issues. I don't want to be bothered.
And so, because people don't want to be bothered, you got child abuse. Child neglect. Moses says, if you are going to make it. Then this thing has got to be rooted in your home. The fifth commandment Honor your father and mother.
That you might live long in the land.
Now, most of the time we talk about that individually, okay? but it was bigger than individually if you want to survive in the culture This parent-child thing has got to be tight. If you're going to survive in the culture, he talks to the young people, teenagers, honor your father and mother. because they're supposed to be honoring the lord and honoring your father and mother that you survive the culture Parents are supposed to be filters. to keep the idols of the culture from entering into the life of the children.
The reason why. We are losing a generation. Is because what Moses told Israel, we don't care about today. You get parents and they'll say, But I don't want my kid in church. In fact, I don't even know if I'm going because this is a Sunday.
The kids come to church and I. And my kid is not going to sit still. People expect church. To me, something church was never meant to be. It was never meant to raise your children.
It was only meant. to supplement your activities. It can only supplement. It cannot replace. A mother and a father.
who have taken as their primary role in life The evangelization and the spiritual development of their children. The church is a highlight film, The Family of the Game. Where we have missed it. Is the home no longer the central place for the spiritual development of the next generation? We have missed it.
We gone after new cars, new houses. We've gone after higher paying jobs. None of that's wrong in and of itself, unless going after it means I am no longer taking primary responsibility for the spiritual development of my children. In fact, I not only want to not take the spirit of responsibility, I want to have them. Moses says We're getting ready to go.
Verse 1: over into the land to possess it. Verse 2: so that your son and your grandson. might fear the law. Why are we going to do this in our homes? Why are we so that your son and your grandson?
So this is multi-generational. Might learn to fear the Lord. Your children might learn to fear the Lord because of what's happening in your house. Here it is. The job of a parent is to give their children.
Here it is. A Biblical World View. A biblical worldview.
Now what's a worldview? A worldview is a grid through which you look at life. It's like putting on sunglasses. When you put on sunglasses, it casts a new shade. over what you see.
what you see takes on a different color because you got shades on so a worldview is the shades That you wear through the lens that you look at life. That's called a worldview. A worldview informs your decision making because it's the grid through which you think. Your worldview colors your perspective. People argue about politics all the time.
Democrat versus Republicans, it all depends on what pair of glasses you have on. It's a worldview issue. He says it is the job of the home. To craft. A worldview for the family that is transferred to those under the influence of the family.
He says in verse one, this commandment, these statutes, this judgment, which the Lord your God has committed me to teach you.
So why do you come to church? Let me tell you. One of the reasons that People come to church. They come to church to be personally inspired. Nothing wrong with that.
personally taught, personally inspired. But that's not good enough reason. That's not enough. He says, I'm teaching you these commandments, I'm teaching you these statutes, and I'm teaching you these guidelines. Yeah.
So that you might tell your son. And your grandson. In other words, I'm not just preaching this for you. I'm preaching this to you so through you, it'll get to them. Every man in this building.
Who comes to church Sunday after Sunday after Sunday, who never sits down with his family to review what he himself has learned. is a failed man. From a father standpoint, that's a failed father. And now you may be a great provider, but if you're not providing spiritual food for your son and your grandson, and he majors on the boys because they themselves would have families, but if you're not, if this is only for you. I had a man one day he asked me, what am I supposed to teach my family?
I said, did you come to church? But if you were paying attention. Then you got some principle that you can share for what you've learned. And then, if they've gone through a program, you can suddenly ask them what they've learned. When Dr.
Evans returns, he'll explain why God has given parents the primary responsibility for shaping their children's faith. Stay with us. Far too many of us want to throw in the towel before we've thrown up the prayers. Dr. Tony Evans says, Christians have a habit of underusing or overlooking our most valuable spiritual resource.
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Mothers and fathers are to be the dominant spiritual influences in the life of their children. The job of the church is to train the parents to disciple the kids.
So let me ask you a question, parents. How often do you sit down spiritually with your children? How regularly? Let me let me ask this. How often do you eat physical food with your children?
Why do you go to work? You go to work so you can keep food on the table. Why do you go to church so you can keep food on the table? But what good is food? In the cupboard that's never been served for a meal.
There is not a family here that should not be having family devotions. three, four, five days a week. Based on schedules, I know people have different schedules.
Some travel for work, I know.
Okay, but there is no excuse. None. Absolutely none. You say, but wait a minute, you don't understand. I'm tired when I come home.
I'm tired. Right.
Okay, so I guess that means we're not gonna look at television. Because I'm dying. I guess that's what that means. We ain't gonna look at television because I'm tired. We're not gonna work out.
Cause I'm tired. No, our problem is not that we're tired. I mean, that may be a pop, you may be tired. But that's an excuse. Because we're talking about the future of your children.
And when you bring it all together, now you're talking about the future of the culture. Yeah.
Thousands of people are working nonstop to put garbage in your kids' mind. Yay! They got people working 24 hours a day whose job it is to ruin. Your children. He says, this is a worldview.
Notice, he says, teach them diligently to your sons, verse 7. When you sit in the house. When you walk by the way When you lie down. When you rise up. What's wrong with them memorizing a verse a week?
If they can remember the lyrics to them hip-hop songs, they can remember one verse a week. Come on. Right on the door post. Have plaques on the wall, right? Right?
I mean, have it all over. Play some Christian music in the house sometime. Let them run into this thing all the time because the culture has them running into their thing all the time. All the time. He says, if you want to survive in the place I have you with all this junk going on, he says, the family.
has got to take this thing seriously. This is not, I know this is not gonna be a popular statement. but this is not first about your happiness. This is not first about your happiness. And yeah, I'm for happiness and I'm for that, but that's not first.
This is first about your future. Your future. He says, You teach them to love the Lord your God with all your heart. Yeah.
And your might.
Now that's your job. That's your job as parents. Your job as parents is to teach your child a Christian worldview.
So that God is their point of reference in every area of their life. to not disconnect it. That God is your point of reference at school. That God is your point of reference when you're playing with your friends. That God is your point of reference on your sports team.
That God is your point, you teach them to love the Lord your God.
Now watch this now. With all your heart.
Now, when the Bible talks about the heart, it's here, obviously, he's not talking about the pump in your chest that pumps blood, he's talking about your will. You know when a guy's playing ball, we say, oh, he got hot. He got hot. We say he got hot. That means he has.
chosen Go get it. Or a person doesn't have heart, no fight in them. Love the Lord with all your will. Then he says all your soul. That's your passion, your emotion.
He doesn't know what sterile love. He wants a love you can feel. With the passion of your being, then with all your strength. Yeah.
That's your body. It says, you train this generation and the next generation, because you're trying to do it too. To love the Lord their God with all they got. Family worship must be regular. The symbols of the faith must be all around your house.
Boundaries must be set. Parents, how do you relate to a teenager? Simple. Establish boundaries. These are the boundaries.
Now. As long as you stay within the boundaries, you are free. You are free. You you free you free. This is the boundary.
The boundary is you're coming at 11 o'clock based on the age. The boundary is that these are your work choice. These are your responsibilities. This is the boundary. These are the boundaries.
Now, When you step on the line. And you're out of bounds? These are the consequences. You step on the line, these are the consequences.
However, when you stay within the line, these are the rewards.
So it's not just consequences, it's curses and blessings.
So if I can trust you on this year.
So being at 11. Then next year we'll discuss 12. You know, we'll bless you with another hour because you honored the boundaries today. We complain that our kids are out of bounds when they've never had boundaries.
So they create their own. You give them these judgments, these standards. Yeah.
What he is simply saying to them, what I am simply saying to us. is that if we are serious about the future. then the family is going to have to step up. and take seriously its responsibility. To be the dominant influencers in the spiritual well-being, what would you look like?
If somebody else is feeding your kids every day. Oh, you hungry? Oh, go down the street. They got something to eat. I would say you're an irresponsible parent.
If you say, I ain't got time to feed you. Let that lady that have a street cook for you. But that's what we're doing with the kids. We're saying, let somebody else. influence your life.
I don't have time. It's not not having time. It's not making the priority choices. that will inconvenience you. to take the time.
Right.
And that's okay though, because the culture has got a whole lot of pseudo mothers and fathers out there ready to raise your kids. The gangbangers will be glad to raise your sons. The abusers will be glad to Love on your daughters. Be glad to.
So there's a lot of surrogate stuff out there. Would love to take your place. All you got to do is. Not be there. It is the responsibility.
Moses said, My job is to teach you. Your job is to take it home. diligently. He said. Don't be talking about you did it last month.
Nothing diligent about that. Come on, I fed my kids dinner last month. Hello? Oh, you want credit? He says, Write them on the doorpost of your house.
and write them on your gate. Thank you. Do not delegate. to anybody. The spiritual development of your children.
Supplement it. Don't delegate it. Dr. Evans will return in a moment to wrap up our time together with a final word of encouragement.
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Well, tomorrow, more from Dr. Evans on building a family-based faith. including why those who were especially blessed are sometimes the first to neglect passing on a heritage of faith. But right now, he's back with a personal story about his father-in-law's final words as the family gathered to say goodbye. He didn't say.
I wish I would have made more money. He didn't say, I wish I had a higher promotion. I wish I had a bigger house. I wish I had a nicer car. I wish I had better clothes.
The only thing he said was. And he uses that Old Testament phrase. He says, I see my loins. And God's been. Yeah.
Mother and father, right now, I want to ask you. If God called you home tomorrow. Would you look at your family and say, It's all good. Not first because I got them through college. As admirable as that is.
Not first because of some great human achievement. But first and foremost because. They have learned to love the Lord their God. With all of their heart. with all of their soul and with all of their might.
Um May God cause you to make the decision. As for me at my house. We will serve the Lord. And if we get enough people making that decision, maybe. We can salvage a generation.
